Relationship Reading
- Jo Anne White, Ph.D. ©2007

How aware are you of how your significant relationships are doing? Get frequent readings like the gas and water companies do. Check out how things are between the two of you. If there's trouble in paradise, if possible, get to the bottom of it.

Often by just talking over misunderstandings, the other person's view and yours come to light. If necessary, it's not a sign of weakness to get professional help. It may be a sign of strength to admit your vulnerabilities and that sometimes it's okay to have help along the way. Here are seven ways to take stock of how well your relationship fits with you:

Relationship Fit:

• You feel recognized and validated by the other.
• You know you can be honest about your feelings.
• You look forward to your partner's company.
• Your self-esteem is still present.
• You make time for other significant relationships and people.
• Intimacy is still alive even if it's limping.
• You make time for what is meaningful to you.

© Dr. White, 2007.